Life of a Mum

Fathers Day Gift ideas.

Stuck for ideas?

want inspiration?

I thought I’d write a little list of ideas for all budgets!

Under £10

Loving the fragrances fromEssential Scent recently- great luxury scent with a lockdown friendly price tag- check out Essential scent insta for more info. I’ve bought 6 different fragrances recently and been so impressed with every one- Sue van advise you on what fragrance best suits If you let her know your mans favourite big branded ones!

Under £30

I’m a sucker for a personalised or photo gift- and Photo box have a great Father’s Day sale on; we’ve ordered Daddy a cute photo block.

If you are local (Leicestershire) I can recommend two wonderful bakers that do awesome treat boxes for Dads especially for Father’s Day- Enchanted Pantry (above) and Baked- by Emily Davis (below) – both are absolutely amazing and I could recommend one over the other- they are both super popular though- so get in quick.

A T-shirt from Topsy blossom they are great quality and perfect lockdown attire- also they are just £15 inc postage!

Under £50

Me and the other half both love Warner’s Gin and they’ve bought back their personalised bottles just in time for Father’s Day. Obviously we’ve ordered Daddy one- you can choose from one of their awesome flavoured Gins, or this Harrington dry is the choice of Dots daddy.

Gin isn’t just for the girls- get to try it (and order yourself the rhubarb whilst you’re there- you won’t regret it).

Foodie dad? Again one for locals (Kettering area) Market Graze Inn do awesome graze boxes- with so many different options- brunch, graze (as shown), afternoon tea or chocolate! Perfect for a socially distanced Father’s Day picnic or delivered to your dads door!

Over £50

Another recommendation from the hubby- Ardent leather belts are proper keepers- will last a lifetime, and would make an awesome Father’s Day gift. They are handmade in Scotland too.

I’m ready to splurge!

Amazing watches from DuFrane Watches my husband has 3 watches from these guys and they are amazing quality for the price- I love them so much I’ve pretty much ‘permanent borrowed’ one- so maybe you can do the same too.

I hope I’ve given you some great ideas- let me know in comments what you think, and if you purchased anything what Dad thought.

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The Lockdown Diaries – Acknowledging Anxiety in Isolation (guest blog)

Words and images by @chameleoninhighheels

When the government (quite rightly) extended the lockdown a couple of weeks ago, I wondered whether this was the perfect ending to a day I’d rather forget. To be brutally honest, it was a shite day. On the surface it was lovely: sunshine, a walk, a socially distant conversation with a friend we met in the park, time in the garden, meals together, family time. Bliss. Only it wasn’t. In my head, it was hell. Doubts about myself and others, returning to normal life, staying locked up, it was all a big, scary, chaotic and scrambled mess.

The familiar lump in my chest and stomach resurfaces, it spreads its claws uncomfortably around my organs and renders me unable to think straight or to see sense. I try to work out if this is related to lockdown, or if there are other demons at work. I think it is both. The fears and doubts have been there a long time, but now are magnified by a world that projects fear and cannot be a safe place for us right now. I try and rationalise my thoughts and talk myself through what I can and can’t influence. I listen to the conversations in my head and weigh them up. I counsel myself and know that the shrink in me is right and wants to kick me off the imagined couch, but I am not ready to leave, not prepared to say: Yeah, I am fine now, thanks for the session.

My thoughts are as stubborn as the monster inside my body. Normally I would schedule a meet up with one of my closest and most trusted friends. Such things have to be talked about in person. But I can’t do that. I would probably also start doing lots of things to distract myself. But today I can’t do that either.

All the dinner is cooked, there is no more food to cook because the fridge is empty, I had my daily exercise and colouring pictures with my daughter gives me more time to think than I can handle. I tentatively tell one of my friends via text and it helps, she is understanding and downright fabulous. She doesn’t try to fix things for me. She is just there. I can breathe more easily. And then I just do something I read the other day by Glennon Doyle: Sit with it. Sit through it. Experience it. And let it pass over.

It’s a bit of a challenge to sit in peace when you have two kids crawling and climbing over you and a puppy chewing on your clothes. But I sit, and I allow myself to feel crap and I endure those feelings of inadequacy, loneliness and anxiousness. And I survive. I still don’t feel great and am far from being a bundle of positivity, but those inner restraints have loosened a little. I am aware that lots of people will be feeling up and down during this time, and many are feeling like this all the time. I also know that everyone’s experience is unique and personal and definitely valid. My feelings may seem ridiculous to some but they are real for me and I have the right to those experiences.

That doesn’t make me weak, stupid or unloved. I am strong – I will get through this day and others; I am knowledgeable – I am aware of my mind and I know that not all feelings are real but they can seem so; and, most importantly, I am loved – not by everyone and that is ok, but I am no less worthy than the next person.

This has been a deeply personal account of what is going on inside me, and I know that I have made myself more vulnerable with this than ever before. I am never dishonest in my blog posts, but there are many things I do not share as freely as others. Whilst I am always scared of repercussions, I am not afraid anymore of revealing a bit more. We are locked up, but we are not silenced. And I have been silent for too long. 

We all have good and bad days, and from now on I will be more willing to openly share the good and the bad, without holding back, in the hope it will speak to other so they know they are not alone.

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