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Cross Your Legs When You Sneeze? There is a Solution (guest blog)

Hello, my name is Julie, and I am the founder and campaigner behind the Multi Award Nominated and Commendation Awarded Secret Whispers Brand. I am mummy to two gorgeous sons and wife to a very patient husband. 

Approaching the big 40 and after 2 pregnancies I was starting to think more seriously about my pelvic floor muscles. I knew that with falling oestrogen levels, my pelvic floor strengthcould start to become an issue. I was not going to let that happen. Kegel exercises are not a new concept to me. I have been doing my exercises for years. But it did shock me just how few products were on the market for women to help them improve their pelvic floors and how there is such a big taboo about the subject. Many of the mums I spoke with told me that they wore pads, no longer took part in sports and that leakage was normal after childbirth. I decided there and then that I had to do something. Most women saw Kegel exercise’s as a ‘rescue’ option when things go wrong, rather than a preventative measure. 

I was astounded that most women had no idea they could do something about this before it became an issue. 

I then decided to design my own Kegel Weight Kit. It is a 6 Step progressive weight programme to safely and gradually strengthen your pelvic floor. They are made with medically graded 100% body safe silicone. It’s like a weighted tampon for your pelvic floor.

Too many women around the world are suffering in silence, crossing their legs when they laugh or sneeze. It’s time to give women back control. I am now on a mission to stop women having to prematurely resort to pads to stop leakage – let’s takedown Tena Lady!

Now ladies, all you need to do is just be committed and take ACTION! Just get started!!

Weight Lifting (…for your vagina)

Let’s talk about something embarrassing shall we? Does a little wee escape when you laugh, sneeze, cough, jump, or run? Is this now your new ‘normal’? 

Did You Know That 50% of women suffer with pelvic floor issues?

Unfortunately this figure could be much higher because women are too embarrassed to even speak to their doctor about it, let alone family or friends. Due to the associated taboo many women are suffering in silence.  The physical, psychological and social wellbeing impact for women and their families who suffer with weak pelvic floor conditions is heart-breaking and could be avoided. This is an issue that spans generations. This has to change.

Did You Know That It Is NOT Normal To Leak After Childbirth?

I was horrified to learn that women are led to believe it is ‘normal’ to cross their legs when they laugh or sneeze. That urine incontinence after childbirth is almost expected, thanks to the large advertising budgets of companies selling these pads. Secret Whispers exists to present a very different reality and give a very different message.

What Are Kegel Exercises?

Kegel exercises consist of repeatedly contracting and relaxing the muscles that form part of the pelvic floor. They are essential because your pelvic floor is a muscle like any other and it needs to be exercised. Think of your pelvic floor as your Lady Hammock. It has a very important job to do. It consists of muscles and ligaments holding up your bowel, uterus and bladder. The muscles that surround these organs can no longer fully support these organs when weakened, resulting in the lack of control you have over passing urine, wind or faeces. In severe cases, called a prolapse, there is a dropping down of the internal organs into the vagina. Don’t use it and you may well lose it! So prevention is better than cure ladies!

“I have tried doing pelvic floor exercises and they didn’t work” 

Most women do not know where their pelvic floor muscles are and how to engage them correctly. When you use Secret Whispers ™ Kegel weights your pelvic muscles are contracted, which in turn lifts the internal organs and the muscles also tighten the openings of your vagina, anus and urethra. Thus, improving your pelvic muscle tone and reducing the need for future corrective surgery! They correctly engage the correct pelvic floor muscles to contract, taking away the guess work.

When Can I Fit Kegel Exercises Into My Already Busy Life?
There really are so many ways for your Kegels to fit easily into your lifestyle that there are NO excuses. Incorporate your Kegel exercises with an activity you do most days. 

 Showering, gym work out, exercise class, walking, school run, yoga, housework, swimming, walking the dog, 

 or even cleaning the oven (honestly:-).

 You just need to be active for them to be effective


“I’ve given birth and the damage is already done”

Doing Kegel exercises before childbirth helps in the recovery of the pelvic floor and reduces the likelihood of bladder incontinence after birth. However, if you start suffering from a loss of bladder control after childbirth, you can still improve the strength of your pelvic floor by doing Kegel exercises. If in doubt please always speak to a pelvic floor physiotherapist.

Will Kegel exercises improve my sex life? 

If you have noticed that it is more difficult to reach orgasm or that your other half has noticed it is more difficult to climax; your pelvic floor may have weakened. An orgasm happens when the muscles in your vagina, anus, and uterus involuntarily contract and then relax. This is the amazing feeling of “release.” Orgasms are bigger and stronger with a strong pelvic floor.

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Life of a Mum

Mum bod…. what’s happened

I’m now two years post-partum- in fact that’s not even a thing. Having a baby an no longer an excuse for a untoned body with 10 extra pounds of chub- an lets be honest that’s what I’m dealing with right now!

It all started so well– this (above) is me 6 days after giving birth- compared with 40 weeks pregnant. I lost me weight quickly- due to the fact that during pregnancy I kept active and ate well. Meaning my weight was mostly; baby, placenta and fluid- with a few pounds of cake weight.

In the early Months post birth I was a machine- warm months of work meant regular walks, workouts when she was asleep and home cooked healthy meals. TBH I looked fab, probably didn’t feel it; big boobs and little excess weight! Oh breast feeding I loved you

My pregnancy starting condition was reasonable- I had IVF med bloat for months- but managed to workout with the other half. I was into HIIT and kettlebells, and was a healthy eating mission for the IVF to work. It do and this is me 8 weeks pregnant (above) the belly is more added progesterone meds’ rather that pregnancy.

Now life with an active toddler and a stressful job is quite different. In the early days of being a mum I had time to train and do meal prep. Now my ‘part time’ job- working four days a week (with an hour commute each way) leaves little time for organised eating, and certainly no motivation to train!

Myself and the other half seem to have been on a self destruct mission since just before Christmas. I swear I’ve eaten more pizza December- February than the previous two years- and this is no exaggeration!

I actually cannot remember the last time I worked out; unless chasing Dorothea around a play park counts! I’ve certainly made more cakes than salads, and our recycling bin is more Alcoholics Anonymous than Veganuary!!!

We need help! And to be honest our crappy diet and lack or motivation to be active has had an impact on Dorothea! I do not want this- we want to teach her to make healthy choices, be active and enjoy her five a day; recently I’m doubting I’ve had two a day (unless grapes in wine count- they don’t do they???)

Pizza eating (below)

Soooo….. me and the Mr have made a pact to now be good……. no more; Christmas, winter, Dorotheas birthday, valentines excuses!

Time to get back to it; healthy eating, two days a week without alcohol (gulp), regular workouts and activity, no more normal cake excuses. This will be better for us and our family!!! Watch me as I succeed; and I will, but I promise no dull #myswjourney (because I don’t believe in fad diets or shakes)

This is how I feel now (below)

check out my insta to follow melodies g the gained 10lbs!!!!

New gym kit from

Hoping this will motivate me